why chinese young ladies love western older guys?

270 posts / 0 new
Last post

Very obviously lots of young girls in China fall in "love" with western old guys, they very much looked odd while walking on street. some claims there is love, some believe there is "woman skills" - anyone knows the essence???

There are several threads about this subject already.

You find these girls where? Because the only Chinese gals Ive seen interested in laowai are girls who frequent laowai bars and hope for 900 kuai per night Wink

Why do ANY younger women like older men?? They are secure (hopefully), stable and have a bit more money to spend on you. Plus younger guys tend not to be the best lovers.

Only my thoughts...

Shouldn't this be better answered with a poll?

    Why do young Chinese girls fall in "love" with old, Western men?
  1. Money
  2. Stability (see 1.)
  3. Better future (Passport)
  4. Parents (see 1.)

Hmm Ive been told by several Chinese friends overseas that most Chinese parents are straight up racist when it comes to laowai sons-in-laws. I dont know if anyone can support this claim with own experiences?

once a friend told me," i hanged out with my friend last night, Jimmy was with his girl friend who is 15yrs younger, Pete 's gal is 30 yrs younger and Waye's is 20 yrs yonger.."

I think you dont really need any proof for that matter right:?

If you were in Shanghai, the Bund, French concession, there are girls with older westerners everywhere,..

For Chinese parents, of course they afraind their Laowai-son-in-law would be too open-minded with relationship that couldnt give life-time happiness to their daughter, which is understandable i think.

I'm one of those guys and love every minute. I savor the amazed and confused looks of middle-aged women as they see me with a young girl that could be their daughter. Do I care? No. Its my business and I'm the lucky monkey. The question about WHY young Chinese girls prefer an older foreign guy...I think it is because to my knowledge not a lot of lovin goes on in most Chinese families...I"m talking about TOUCHING, HUGGING...basic human contact for crying out loud. Even a puppy will become crazy if he isn't petted once and awhile. Most Chinese would just equate it as "this is our culture foreign monkey boy and shut up"...well, there you go. Well if true, and I think it is, then not only do older guys fulfill the needed loving aspect but also (here is a little bit of Freud coming at you) a loving father figure as daughters share a special admiration for their fathers and ditto boys with their mothers. But at the end of the Chinese day...people just have to live their OWN lives...find your own happiness and don't fret over what other people are doing already... :o

sicapitan wrote:
Shouldn't this be better answered with a poll?

    Why do young Chinese girls fall in "love" with old, Western men?
  1. Money
  2. Stability (see 1.)
  3. Better future (Passport)
  4. Parents (see 1.)

Marrying a laowai for stability ????? that should be the least reason...

toughguy wrote:
I'm one of those guys and love every minute. I savor the amazed and confused looks of middle-aged women as they see me with a young girl that could be their daughter. Do I care? No. Its my business and I'm the lucky monkey. The question about WHY young Chinese girls prefer an older foreign guy...I think it is because to my knowledge not a lot of lovin goes on in most Chinese families...I"m talking about TOUCHING, HUGGING...basic human contact for crying out loud. Even a puppy will become crazy if he isn't petted once and awhile. Most Chinese would just equate it as "this is our culture foreign monkey boy and shut up"...well, there you go. Well if true, and I think it is, then not only do older guys fulfill the needed loving aspect but also (here is a little bit of Freud coming at you) a loving father figure as daughters share a special admiration for their fathers and ditto boys with their mothers. But at the end of the Chinese day...people just have to live their OWN lives...find your own happiness and don't fret over what other people are doing already... :o

I agree about the "lacking emotional touch" part..but younger foreign gals dont need that? or western women dont need that?
in a way, Chinese younger gals fulfilled your older western guys' ego for being a protector in a relationship? and not worrying getting resisted at least verbally?

I just wonder what topics a 50 something man can talk about with a 20 something girl, besides sex:-) let alone they are from different cultural background...I also wonder how many those guys already have a wife back home.

If you tell me that every man has some kind of Lolita complex, I can believe it.

chest hair

helloitsmeagain wrote:
chest hair

You must be kidding me.

no no. i'm serious. trust me. my best friend's mom's a doctor. i know what i'm talking about.

helloitsmeagain wrote:
no no. i'm serious. trust me. my best friend's mom's a doctor. i know what i'm talking about.

Young girls fall for old guys because of his chest hair???? Oh man, this is the most amusing thread I have seen today.

There is generally much more physical contact between family members in western countries than in Asian ones. But that doesn't erase the fact that people need physical connections as an integral aspect of being apart of the human race. This isn't slamming China---its just apart of Chinese culture and should be respected no matter what---albeit it probably does have its consequences---Of course many young girls may have a MOTIVE in choosing an older guy to latch onto and that is totally understandable too as its all about economics. A friend of mine---an American university professor married a young Chinese girl who came from a background so poor that she begged in the streets with her family as a young girl. Now has she succeeded in bettering her life situation? Did she have an equal chance of getting ahead given her roll or the dice in life....I think not...so when one realizes that they are just searching for a better life---and who wouldn't---then its a little more understandable...

And to be honest---most men---including myself---don't know how to make love properly until they are at least 35! or even 40! With a young uncaring and selfish monkey guy she's only going to be subjected to a bunny-f(^(K thats over in 11 seconds and he's smoking a cigarette before she knows its already over----oh the facts of life---

toughguy wrote:
And to be honest---most men---including myself---don't know how to make love properly until they are at least 35! or even 40! With a young uncaring and selfish monkey guy she's only going to be subjected to a bunny-f(^(K thats over in 11 seconds and he's smoking a cigarette before she knows its already over----oh the facts of life---

lol thats a good point...young girls, enjoy the older guys for educational purpose, if only

come on! this kind of young Chinese girls can 'fall in love' with old Chinese guys too as long as the old guy can provide the girl what they want: security in a relationship, financial stability, some added values such as a new life style, new experiences or a passport etc that she can never get by her own etc...well, I completely understand those girls' choice because thats the easiest way to cure their deep insecurity and lack of self-confidence. this is a free market and it's nothing to blame as long as people are happy with what they trade for. fair enough.

by the way, what can a young guy offer besides sex (only if he is good at...)???? cheating? lies? arrogance? selfishness? emotional instability??....dont get me wrong thou. I still like young guys more than daddy/uncle type of guys;-)

toughguy wrote:
And to be honest---most men---including myself---don't know how to make love properly until they are at least 35! or even 40! With a young uncaring and selfish monkey guy she's only going to be subjected to a bunny-f(^(K thats over in 11 seconds and he's smoking a cigarette before she knows its already over----oh the facts of life---

come on Mr. uncle (or grandpa?)...obviously u never had sex with a young guy, did u huhh!!

or you were just a late bloomer;)

only love is not enough for life huh?

beijingcat wrote:
come on! this kind of young Chinese girls can 'fall in love' with old Chinese guys too as long as the old guy can provide the girl what they want: security in a relationship, financial stability, some added values such as a new life style, new experiences or a passport etc that she can never get by her own etc...well, I completely understand those girls' choice because thats the easiest way to cure their deep insecurity and lack of self-confidence. this is a free market and it's nothing to blame as long as people are happy with what they trade for. fair enough.

by the way, what can a young guy offer besides sex (only if he is good at...)???? cheating? lies? arrogance? selfishness? emotional instability??....dont get me wrong thou. I still like young guys more than daddy/uncle type of guys;-)

i know a 24 years old chinese girl with a 60 something years old western man, they have been together for around 3 years, she even took him back home a few times, i really don't know what she told her parents about him, think she lied to them, i am pretty sure they wont marry, even though they claim there is love, so what exists between them, money, sex, heard this man had sex with other girls too when they are still together. what can this man get when he goes back to his own country? job? young girl? i guess nothing at all...

Quote:
And to be honest---most men---including myself---don't know how to make love properly until they are at least 35! or even 40! With a young uncaring and selfish monkey guy she's only going to be subjected to a bunny-f(^(K thats over in 11 seconds and he's smoking a cigarette before she knows its already over----oh the facts of life---

How's that Viagra working for you? What comes first with you old guys, the heart attack or the orgasm?

All I know is that if young boys put as much energy into their relationships and sex life as they do standing (as compared to walking) on an escalator...no wonder young girls prefer more experienced and enthusiastic older men!

Having sex with a old guy might be fun to some. I guess the fun part for the girl would probably be that they never know how if the guy will survive to the end.

babylion wrote:

..... they afraind their Laowai-son-in-law would be too open-minded with relationship that couldnt give life-time happiness to their daughter, which is understandable i think.

What? Are you serious? Understandable?

How many chinese guys out there provide a life-time of happiness to their wife? Anyone care to answer to this honestly?

well I bet no girls want to have sex with a selfish bitter asshole no matter if he is old or young (brain-damaged girls are not included).

24 y/o VS 60 y/o?!?!?!
am i getting too old for this???

24y/o is way too young for life-time decisions. the "grandpa" isnt too obviously horny for "teens"?

gross

fayeme wrote:
i know a 24 years old chinese girl with a 60 something years old western man, they have been together for around 3 years, she even took him back home a few times, i really don't know what she told her parents about him, think she lied to them, i am pretty sure they wont marry, even though they claim there is love, so what exists between them, money, sex, heard this man had sex with other girls too when they are still together. what can this man get when he goes back to his own country? job? young girl? i guess nothing at all...
rvastag wrote:
babylion wrote:

..... they afraind their Laowai-son-in-law would be too open-minded with relationship that couldnt give life-time happiness to their daughter, which is understandable i think.

What? Are you serious? Understandable?

How many chinese guys out there provide a life-time of happiness to their wife? Anyone care to answer to this honestly?

well, some Chinese guys like to cheat their wives as much as their western counterparts. there is no so much difference between guys' nature. one thing is slightly different between Chinese and foreign guys (in general): western guys may be easier to get divorced if he has no feelings toward his wife any longer or he is 'truly in love' with someone else than his wife no matter if he already got kids (maybe this is not true for some religious people in the West). Love is the fundamental thing for most western people but not the major factor for Chinese family. The responsibility for kids is the primary concern, and then the impact to their social status/image, family pressure, divorce costs,,,,etc. too complicated. so that a Chinese guy seldom take the initiative to divorce their wives and actually Chinese women play the role to break the iceberg in most cases (they always choose to stay especially when they have kids no matter how bad the relationship with their wives is ). so this is kind of significant 'stability' through traditional Chinese parents eyes compared to a guy who is from a country that the divorce rate is over 50%.

lol
六十而耳顺
older guys will forgive us.

Anon wrote:
Having sex with a old guy might be fun to some. I guess the fun part for the girl would probably be that they never know how if the guy will survive to the end.