Sex, to me, is a very important thing, especially in a relationship. The more you trust and love your partner the more you relax and sex is simply better with someone you feel really comfortable with. Good sex is a must for a good relationship, but not necessary the other way around. There are a lot of couples out there who have a really loving relationship and shitty or just mediocre sex. I couldn't do that to be honest. I am a very sexual being, and to be honest, would a relationship be great but the sex just not satisfying it would be a reason for me to split up. So far for sex in a relationship.
For sex in general, well sometimes a good lay has the power to make me more at ease and bring everything back into perspective. You know, kinda like the whole seeing clearly after a storm thing. And sometimes it's just like and itch and you need to scratch.....

sex just means sex, nothing else. A great sex would never turn out to be a serious relationship in my book unless I find something in his personality which can attract my attention/respect beyond sex itself. Men tend to overrate the importance of sex but I suggest some of you may need to understand the difference between LOVE and LUST.

sex is the meaning of my life.

if no sex, then when i'm ready to die, i would think i have done nothing in my life,
so sex sex sex!!!

AGREE with beijingcat

Sex is not just only sex!

To execute good sex, to be completely "open", this can normally only be done to a person, who you are having some feelings (okay, maybe, Love is a little big word).

No sex = no relationship! Sex is the spice of live.......it will pump you up to better feelings, better working, better live...

hmm I had pretty good sex with somebody whom I didn't even like. Okay the first time was because I was drunk and would have had to go home at 4 a.m. on a train for half an hour, so I decided to spend the night and see what happens. Turned out the sex was pretty good. So yes, had a couple of follow ups and than dumped the sorry ass, cuz I just couldn't stand the lousy personality.

First time sex with somebody can never be the "best" sex. To have good sex with somebody will take some time - for both, to know each other "favourite things". This can only happen after some time of "experience" and again, depending on some feelings.........wait, until you have found the right one (WITH feelings involved from both sides)!

sorry you are wrong. I dont like to have sex AT RANDOM but I don't require a relationship or a marriage before having sex with someone I am attracted to. Sex can happen if there are some physical attraction out there but love can only happen while both of you deeply admire each other MENTALLY (physical attraction helps though) . I just feel sorry for many girls who don't understand the difference between love and sex. Yes, sex means love and caring to them so the unbalanced expectations from two different genders have caused lots of problems, unhappiness, conflicts and even tragedies. and some guys also misunderstood that sex might mean LOVE to them but thats just an illusion...they are obsessed with some women physically because their endless lust needs to be satisfied all the time...go watching Woody Allen's Match Point and then you will understand what I am talking about.

I think Son of Blitzer has the answer to this one. Somehow according to him it may have something to do with the prelude before the big day between John and Obama or it also could mean on a bigger level the dance between both the Republican Party and Democrats..somehow ...somehow....maybe past "admenstruations" ????....lol

haha, good one. But I have no idea what bjrat is talking about.

espero hasn't replied regarding the notion that sex is just sex, i wish he could explain how sex and love is connected.

Bjcat , i love the way you said it. Very sexy but in the end you accused men of overrating sex, we [men] should be able to differentiate between lust and sex or did you mean Love?

beijingcat wrote:

Men tend to overrate the importance of sex but I suggest some of you may need to understand the difference between LOVE and LUST.

From what you wrote i can infere that you like sex and you can have sex at random without much preconditions...because sex means sex. This notion is not so bad but it comes with key disadvantages which most enlightened women like you could handle . ...not all women are capable of handling the aftermath . i bet you can handle yours perfectly but how about the other women? Sex is not sex for them...it means loving and caring. It means 'crying' for one man endlessly, it could mean a better future for most women. If you really think deeply about it, you might say that sex is not really sex . It has a certain amout of power. This power could be used by either partner to extend the flow...negatively or postively.

You also said something about finding a treasure in his personality during the aftermath...which is a good approach but what if he finds nothing in your personality attractive but sex, would you tag along based on just sex?

In fact sex is not just 'sex'. The quality of the sex should be top priority on the list when talking about personality. If the sex is bad then there is nothing left to look for in a man's personality. I think ...

Furthermore, I don't think lust and sex have the same meaning. Lust is an imagination but sex is real. I still don't understand how the word love found it's way into your post when you started by saying that sex means sex. Could you explain ?

ithanks for asking and answering your question. i said sex is love, in reality, u need to feel something from your partner before going into sex,as u rightly put it we can not say sex and love are the same.and i said a good sex can or may be lead to a stronger relationship.we are talking here about real sex not lust, lust people can f...k anything that moves,but a real human will seek to enjoy sex when there is feeling or love.this my meaning of sex is love,but again love is not sex.....

You people have sex with a PARTNER?! Isn't that a little bit weird?

with the person I love, it means intimacy, closeness, warmness, trust...with the person I dont love but dont dislike...it is just a way to balance my hormones...and maybe at some flash moments, it could give you a feeling of closeness.

you are so girl.