It's good you realised this earlier rather than later.

Those little things will turn into big things later. Worse still, because she's speaking a language you don't understand, she will complain in korean in front of you to all her friends about you because you can't understand her. You will look like more of a fool without realising it.

Best to break up now and spend your youth on better things.

At least now you know for your next relationship to look for something more than looks.

PS: Was it the kimchee smell that put you off? I hate kimchee smell... it smells like a taxi driver.

Like MC Skat Kat once said...opposites attract.

Don't worry how much you have in common with her. It is possible for two very different people to have a lasting relationship.

What matters is how you feel about your differences. If you don't mind her not always doing what u like, and at the end of the day, you are happy being with her, Then you've answered your own question.

However, if her going against the grain makes you miserable, and you cant stand it anymore...well there you go.

What matters is your happiness. If you can't see a future living like u are now with her, its best to break it off.

The last thing you want to do is try to make her agree with you more on things, or for her to do the same to you. In the end, one of you will be wearing a fake smile and be more miserable than you are now arguing with each other constantly.

And Kimchee is freaking great.

Eh, how are you supposed to solve real issues later on if you can't even go for dinner?

Break up.

my 10 year dating experience tells me only one thing: NEVER NEVER start a relationship with someone that you have nothing in common. it would never work out but just a waste of time. in other words, if you want something more lasting and serious, you'd better find someone who is similar to you (common life value/personality/background)--I never believe the opposite attraction crap (physically, maybe; mentally, NO); if you don't have long term plan with her, hi, why suffer? just follow your feeling.

I get the impression, as others have said, that you are both too selfish and want what you want and nothing else will do. No compromise at all.

She obviously needs someone to worship her and give her exactly what she wants. You want what you want and "men are the boss", my word is law kind of attitude.

Arguments and anger is usually due to frustration. Things that have not been got out in the open for discussion. It is easy to blame each other for a lot of things, but the fact is, that you both are to blame for not being honest about your true feelings and talking to each other.

In Asia that is very difficult I know, but I dont see how a relationship(my idea of one) will work otherwise. Unless of course you want to settle for the normal "you do your thing, and I'll do mine" kind of relationship that I see every day here. If this is the case, you might as well split the bills down the middle and just live in the same house/apartment and just get on with it.

Ask yourselves why you are together? What does she give you to make you feel 'loved' and what do you give her to make her feel 'loved'? If either of you are not getting this 'loved' feeling, then it is not working, is it? After all, that is why we get into relationships in the first place.

Don’t yell. If you yell, you lose, in all sorts of ways. Stay calm.

i dont think its about selfishness.. i think its about the pants in the relationship.

ive never ever EVER met anyone that was like, "i dont want to eat there. i want to eat where i want to eat... f*** you then, i'll eat by myself".. it sounds like both of you are fighting over the pants. but when it rips in half, both of you lose because you guys end up eating alone... each wearing one pant leg.

great comment

The easy thing to do would be to break up. I've found that when you start asking yourself if you shouldn't be with the person you're with or that being with someone makes you habitually unhappy that it's time to move on.

My advice is to break up with your lady. I think you'll feel better. You'll be out of sex for period of time but you'll ultimately feel better (freedom and the possibility of meeting new people is exciting).

Considering the OP is two months old, I think any further advice is falling off the cliff.

Wow, there is a lot of fluffy, sugar-coated advice here from some folks way the hell up in the clouds.

Let's keep it simple and honest here ...

You can't even share a meal?
That alone should answer your questions.

Good luck.

once on a tv a program there was a chinese teacher who works in BLCU told a story about 2 of her students

one is japanese girl the other one is korean boy, both of them were new comer in BLCU started learn chinese and doesnt know much about english, so they couldnt communicate with each other well, but somehow they fall in love. seems they were perfect couple, they never argued about things...
but 6 monthes later when their chinese getting better, they started argue to each other, and finally they break up...

god..... old post.

Please stop pointing out the obvious

and move to another thread.

Then how does she pay for your meal.....back on the block, u could simply slip her credit card out of her purse...