I used to think that rule about how girls shouldn't sleep with a guy on the first date was b.s.... and that it didn't change anything because it only mattered what kind of guy and girl and what kind of connection they had..... that is, until I came to China.

Now I've seen and experienced the truth: if the girl gives it up too fast, the chase is ruined and the game is done. A girl who makes me work really hard for it, on the other hand.... She's my shipoopi.

There are too many a-holes like me in China. I even usually advise my female friends to wait on sex if they really like the guy (haha, I apologize to the guys on the other end, but hey, if they're not serious about him they can have fun all they want ). And then when they don't listen, they wonder why he's all of a sudden acting distant and what happened to that "special connection" she thought they had.

everyone should have sex after the Beijinger's Issue Release Party this Friday

http://www.thebeijinger.com/events/2009/Mar/Drink-Your-Way-to-Thailand-a...

Hold on...I thought it was either/or!

another thesis subject for class. Do your own research - in the library or better still buy some adult magazines (shock, horror, naked bodies).

Do we represent a 'good cross-section of the expat community in a major city'? I doubt it, but no-one will know I suppose, and it might be quoted as an authorative work sometime in the future.

I'd say a girl who gives it up so easily is probably going to slip a few steps down on the girlfriendpotential ladder, if not completely off it. It's probably just me but I think I would always have this kinda feeling that she might have done it too many times before and there is an increased risk she might go and do it again with some other guy she just met. I know this is sexist talk but I am just being honest sorry.

It's the 21st century now so if you don't have sex on the first date, then you've probably done something wrong. Perhaps, you can rethink your approach and correct your mistakes...So I hear, but I wouldn't know what to do.

that was very profound.

please grace us with more of your wisdom.

Don't think anything I wrote is "profound". Women are different from men, plain and simple.

Oh god, pleeeease guys, don't believe this crap. We ladies like it, neeeeed it, just as much as you. It's just that sometimes we let our hearts and minds overule what we're hungering for.

It's all this feminist hogwash that we've been fed since the old days, that leads us to believe that's what is expected of us. So we put our needs aside, and put on this show for you, thinking that it is what you want of us. God, give me the sixties and seventies again. We were free to be ourselves, and get our fill of life too. I believe its cyclic, it'll come round again, sooner than later I hope.

And the most fulfilling relationships I've had, are when we both just think of our own needs. Don't worry, he'll look after no.1. No pretences, know what I mean.

In the mean time, I have to deal with Stevies mind leaving us high and dry (well, hot and bothered) while we wait until it's acceptable to get it on. Please, next time you buy us a drink, make it a sneaky double.

If obey all the rules of dating or SEX, you will miss the fun.
I think there's a will and there's a need for the dating thing, it takes two to tango right, go with your feelings. I believe sex on first date doesnt sound bad for most of girls either. But when it comes to Chinese guy dating Chinese girl, things could be different.

WHITE WOMEN:

First date:
You get to kiss her goodnight.
Second date:
You get to grope all over and make out a bit.
Third date:
You get to have sex but only in the missionary position.

IRISH WOMEN:

First Date:
You both get blind drunk and have sex.
Second Date:
You both get blind drunk and have sex.
20th Anniversary:
You both get blind drunk and have sex.

ITALIAN WOMEN:

First Date:
You take her to a play and an expensive restaurant.
Second Date:
You meet her parents and her Mom makes spaghetti & meatballs.
Third Date:
You have sex, she wants to marry you & insists on a 3-carat ring.
5th Anniversary:
You already have 5 kids together & hate the thought of having sex.
6th Anniversary:
You find yourself a Mistress.

CHINESE WOMEN:

First date:
You get to buy her an expensive dinner but nothing happens.
Second date:
You buy her an even more expensive dinner. Nothing happens again.
Third date:
You don't even get to the third date and you've already realized nothing
is ever going to happen.

INDIAN WOMEN:

First date:
Meet her parents.
Second date:
Set the date of the wedding.
Third date:
Wedding n! ight.

BLACK WOMEN:

First Date:
You get to buy her a real expensive dinner.
Second Date:
You get to buy her and her girlfriends a real expensive dinner.
Third Date:
You get to pay her rent.
Tenth Date:
She's pregnant by someone other than you.

MEXICAN WOMEN:

First Date:
You buy her an expensive dinner, get drunk on Tequila, and have sex in
the back of her car.
Second Date:
She's pregnant. < BR>Third Date:
She moves in. One week later, her mother, father, his girlfriend, her
two sisters, her brother, all of their kids, her grandma, her father's
girlfriend's mother, her two cousins, her sister's boyfriend and his
three kids move in and you live on rice and beans for the rest of your
life in your home that used to be nice, but now looks like a home along
the Tijuana strip.

ARAB WOMEN:

First Date:
Mother, Father, Brothers, Sisters, Cousins, Aunts, Uncles, Friends and entire Arab community finds out.
Second Date:
Guy is shot dead.
No third date!!!

LEBANESE WOMEN:

First Date:
You will have to spend all your money to impress
Second Date:
You will take a loan to keep the image
Third Date :
Your are broke, she finds someone wealthier

Helloooo!! Honor killing, she gets acid thrown on her and beaten to death.