Not necessarily taken for a ride, no.

But if she has her own money then she should share the burden.

You say you would expect a girl at home to pay.....why are you treating this girl any different then?
Are you trying to adapt so completely to Chinese society that you'll start swigging the Baij, wearing Lacoste shirts and sporting a man-bag?

It's no problem for one party to pay all the rent if only they can afford it.
Ask her if she's willing to pay some. If the answer is a flat out "no"....get rid of her.
You pay 90% of everything?.....hmmm, again if she has no money or is looking for a job this is fine, otherwise it's a big no.

sounds like this money issue is really bothering you.

maybe you gf is a little self-centered.

Agreed

Unless the OP wants to find a laowai gf, the chances of him finding a partner here without having to make some concessions are small (though it's not impossible).

I suspect that is the case here.

This is a good "test", but it could also backfire. But then you might say this result would prove that she wasn't worth it anyways.

The OP mentioned that they are now living in a much nicer/more expensive place that she was when she was by herself. Also, they eat out a lot and I'm pretty sure she is used to cooking. I guess what I'm getting at is she's adapting to his lifestyle, which requires more financial reserves. Of course, she's probably not complaining as she probably views this as an "upgrade".

Anyways, there have been previous threads on this same topic - OP, you should try doing a search. I believe I've even responded to one of them so you could try looking at my past replies.

I don't blame you for asking. Just be aware economic status definitely plays a big factor in partner selection over here. But often times it is really out of necessity, so choose carefully.

Sounds like you are co-habiting rather than dating. My advice is be a man! Stop thinking cheap! You should give over all your money and allow her to take over the financial management of your household. Then you won't have to worry about nickels and dimes.

Well said! I personally feel that you're being taken advantage of. How long have you guys been dating? If you've been together for less than half a year and now you're paying for 90% of the expenses.....I can kind of understand why Chinese girls would find MOST foreign guys attractive.....especially the white ones....

I think we need to know how much she earns before we start making judgements about her. I mean, yeah, if she's earning RMB1500-2000 a month, then I think you're a complete tightwad. If she's earning a normal office jockey's salary, she's not really in a position to help pay for all your meals out - and she wouldn't be eating out anyway if she wasn't with you. Considering this, I don't think it's fair to ask her to help pay for these kinds of meals. Same with all the train tickets, trips etc. She's going on these because of you. It's not as though she'd be able to take such trips if she wasn't with you. And if you asked her to make a contribution towards the rent, a fair proportion of her salary (say, 25%) dedicated to it would end up being such a negligible amount as to not be worth asking for - in my opinion.

However, if she's earning RMB5000+, then you might have a point about how she should be contributing more. So, how much does she earn?

cant agree more.

what my grandparents fight over

15 to 22 k? what does she do? thats hella above the average salary for a chinese person

Something doesn't ring entirely true here with poiuytr's story. A girl earning 15-22K a month has a good career, is educated etc (unless she's a hooker). I find it hard to believe that someone like that (again, assuming she's not a hooker) is not even a bit independent minded and has absolutely no problem with you paying for pretty much everything.

I suspect that OP's girlfriend actually doesn't earn 15-22K/month. That is an uncommonly high salary for a young female to make. And if she was earning that kind of money, it's an open and shut case that hardly needs to be discussed here.

I suspect that she earns a fairly typical RMB2-3000/m salary. In that case, LDS and otto are right - OP is a tightwad.

15K and she's not paying?

hahaha, what a whore!!