Why settle down in China? There are no safetys or guarantees for your family. At all.

I would only marry & have kids etc at home (Sweden), preferably with a Swedish woman.
There are no safety nets here: health insurances, unemployment insurances, legal protection, retirement funds, all kinds of family benefits, rights etc in China.

China will probably never be a functioning welfare state. If i would have a family, i would not have one in China. It would be plain irresponsible of me to settle down here.

As for marriage in China. I think they only want foreigners in China if they can make money out of it. Love just doesn't cross border.

I wouldn't mind staying here for years. In fact I am planning on getting married in China. My gf isn't really keen on moving outside of China, and that's not really a problem as I don't want to move back to my own country. I feel much better here.

After for the insurrance, my work is providing one for me and I applied for another one on my own. So I am covered for almost everything (for life).

The main issue will be the education of the kids. I don't want them to go into the Chinese system which isn't good at all. But I have to think about this.

I believe that the 2 have to make concessions. If the 2 agree to stay in one place than it's fine, but if one want to move whili the other doesn't then there is a problem.

ha ha ha ha

it's all about money ( or as others put it: social welfare )
too many choices confuse the mind.

If you can't even meet her parents and make them sign some paper, are you sure you want to get married ???

There are many foreign men who have married Chinese girls and settled down well here.The hurdle is to get the parents to sign on for the idea.I know alot of foreign guys who went to meet their gf's parents and the parents refused the marriage-these were guys from the US,UK and even a couple of Africans/Americans.The reason some of the parents refused is they were afraid of losing their daughter to another country.Some were lucky and after a while the parents reconsidered on being re-assured that they would stay in China and also it helps if the chinese girl stands her ground and tells her parents her choice and decison is final,some parents come around.But it's a huge step to take.For any of you attempting this good luck.Love overcomes everything!

The parents hold the hukou book stupid!and if they refuse what will you do? go to her hometown and steal it while her parents are sleeping?Either way it's important in any culture to get the blessing of the parents first.

No, not in all cases - she might've had her hukou transferred through her university or employer, or by purchasing property.

Is the name calling really necessary? Idiot.

This is more of a legal question than one of romance.
Consider the differences in marital law of different countries.
Your social security protection is independent of your marriage: you can well subscribe to a foreign security scheme and still live in China if you want to. You can well get married abroad and live in China if you want to. If you get married abroad, you'll not need a Hukouben.
Parents hiding the girls passport seems to be a common practice in China. In that case, what's wrong in finding it back? It only shows your determination. All parents everywhere in the world will probable first try to discourage you a little bit to see if you are really determined.
As for the childrens' education, there are quite a lot of foreign schools in China, but only in some very big cities. However, if you want to live in China anyways, why not stick to the Chinese system? At least they'll lern the characters and culture correctly. You can still supplement for the rest.
And Chinese seem to become milionairs without a foreign education, too. Look at all the Chinese students in foreign universities, they are doing rather well.

A foreign husband of a Chinese wife will have to renew his L visa every year. It is very difficult to obtain a D visa.

It is supper easy to get married here. My wife and I got it done back in May of 2007. We sat in an office and waited for the lady to get the things ready, she asked a few questions in Chinese and we both said yes, I paid the 9RMB fee, she pasted the pictures and put the stamps on our wedding certificates and then we were done.

To answer the OP:

No. They are not ready. They are way too racist.

Man,

F*u*c*k Kunming!

wtf?

laaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaame...

answer to OP: No. absolutely not.

F*u*c*k Kunming...

wtf?

The parents are always happy if you pay them off. Cash, buy them an apartment, something. Remember we're talking about a girl here (which they never really wanted) so the chance of actually being able to profit from her definitely cheers them up.