Can you ever be good friends with your EX ?
In most relationships, the time to say goodbye usually arrives at one point or another -- unless you intend to walk down the aisle, of course (and even then...). With your ex, you've shared memories that will either make you laugh or cry, and it's time to take your experiences, put them in your back pocket and move on. But somewhere on the road of parting ways couples feel the need to promise to stay friends -- which ultimately leads to more broken promises.
So, can you ever be friends with your ex? Does it have to be all-or-nothing?




Jamie Shorter 13
Re: Can you ever be good friends with your EX ?
You can until you meet the next person you want to commit to or marry.
Then, it is all over.
iztel
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Yes it does.
RemmyM
Re: Can you ever be good friends with your EX ?
"Can you ever be friends with your ex?"
Kind of, but not really.
I think there will always be an element of "could we get back together again?"
Remmy be pimpin' in BJ, yo!
Kc_guy
Re: Can you ever be good friends with your EX ?
This is an area that I maybe considered and expert. I have no problems being friends with them but a few have problem being friends with me LOL.
One of my Ex-wives (divorced 27 years) is driving from Santa Monica to Laguna Hills (long way) to take me for dinner after she found out I was back for a short visit, her new husband does not know she is meeting me.
I am flying to Sacramento to visit my kids and I will try to avoid their mother. She is a bitter person with a violent Irish temper and she is married to a coup.
Some of my ex-girlfriends that were closer to me than my ex-wives are still in contact with me sharing their problems with kids and husbands with me, we are good friends.
I don’t burn bridges, don’t hold grudges and just try to be open and honest with how I feel and what I think so it makes it easy for me to be friends with my Ex(s). It takes Billions of years and infinity of things to happen exactly the way it did for any relationship to form, I don’t take that for granted. Relationships don’t end, they change us for ever and shape how things will be for Billions of years in the future.
chess players plan carefully and work out the tactical details before making a move.
Isis
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how can you be friends with your ex?
that's an insult,what were you before?
move on and forget her/him burn all the stuff you shared or give it back,then it's on to the next one.
Satisfaction is the death of desire
I never ask people for ANYTHING because they always have NOTHING worth asking for.
RemmyM
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Remmy be pimpin' in BJ, yo!
Jamie Shorter 13
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So that time I f***ed that African girl I created a black hole?
Hey KC how many times have you been married and divorced?
Maybe you can give Monkey King some advice?
Juicycherry
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Letting him/her go
The racing of the heart when you saw your crush, the cheeks turning red every time you were caught staring at him, that sweet, nagging ache when you didn't see him for a day .... does all of this remind you of your first love? They say that one never forgets his/her first love. Hence, getting over it must be one of the most painful experiences of one's life. But is every lover's prayer answered? Sadly no. We all have to learn to live with rejections and denials. For some of us, first love is just one of those gambles that we lose. The ache is so strong that we feel we would never be the same. But we know that life cannot go on like this forever. So the next question that arises is, 'how to get over your first love?'
'"Loving someone is setting them free, letting them go"'. - Kate Winslet.
'"There’s no need to miss someone from your past. There’s a reason they didn’t make it to your future"'. - Anonymous.
'"Think about any attachments that are depleting your emotional reserves. Consider letting them go"'. - Oprah Winfrey.
'"Every happy couple has at least one breakup behind them"'. - Anonymous.
'"There are things that we never want to let go of, people we never want to leave behind. But keep in mind that letting go isn’t the end of the world, it’s the beginning of a new life"'. - Anonymous.
"Stand up and walk out of your history". - Phil McGraw.
Isis
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yet after all is said and done,sex with an ex is the BEST!
Satisfaction is the death of desire
I never ask people for ANYTHING because they always have NOTHING worth asking for.
Jamie Shorter 13
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Juicy Cherry that is an interesting name.
Did Kate Winslet really say that or was it written for her in a movie?
bigsmile
Re: Can you ever be good friends with your EX ?
If he is a good person, sure.
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ReneeWine
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So it seems that it was secret for her.And you told this in public.
sexy beast
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I generally hate all my EX, they are all a-holes
To come here, I realise that I am not as twisted as I imagine
lilinyan
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yea u can say friends. a friend that u wish him happy and will say hi when u meet him but not a friend u want to call when u need someone specially when u find the next one.
busyman66204
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I was my Ex's best friend, but she was not much of a friend for me. That is why she is an Ex!
I have a good communication with her presently, and she frequently asks for advice on writing somethings, like a thank you to an H.R. boss for an interview, etc. (she is an immigrant living in US of A.)(I taught her English)
But I will never trust her again!
Whenever I am in her city, she wants to get together, though I am not sure why. Is not a big desire for me!
Sure is nice to spend time with a beautiful woman (on a scale of 1-10, most give her an 11) but again, she is just not very desirable to me!
International Todd!
白人
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I'm friends with pretty much all of my exes. The interesting thing is that in the year before I moved to Japan, I broke up with one girl, who wouldn't talk to me, and started dating another, who fell in love with me. Unfortunately, I already had plans to move to Japan, and she wasn't part of them.
So I moved to Japan, and she wouldn't talk to me, but my ex that wouldn't talk to me started mailing me!
I didn't end up talking to the one that I left behind until about two months ago (this is almost ten years later). She said it was just too hard, because she was so hurt when I left. I can understand that, but truth be told if she had kept talking to me, I probably would have gone home to her after a year, rather than staying here the ten years that I have.
wave
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It could never happen. At the moment I'm only civil because there's children involved.
Hero's in the same boat, but it's dogs not kids.
Sometimes the same is different, but mostly, it's the same.
wefrucar
Re: Can you ever be good friends with your EX ?
As always...
it depends
on the person, on the relationship, on circumstances
I would be happy to stay friends with every single one of my exes. Why not? I'm able to move on, and meanwhile I still hold all the girls I dated seriously in very hard regard (if not, what the hell was I doing with them in the first place?)... and with everything we've been through - with how well we know each other - why not honor that and keep a friendship?
Some of my exes refuse to talk to me. One or two I'm still good friends with. Most I'm in touch with, but not regularly.
For whatever reason, the girl I hurt the most still talks to me regularly (though we're in opposite time zones), and I'm really happy about it. Of course, that was only after a year of cold shoulder.
On the other hand, another girlfriend I hurt a lot remained a close friend (even after getting another boyfriend).... then a year later we had an argument and we've never talked since. In all fairness, it was probably my fault...
All flavors of the rainbow
Sometimes I feel it is maybe unbearable always be traditional Chinese girl.
Mockingbird
Re: Can you ever be good friends with your EX ?
It is so true~~~
No words are racist. Actions are racist.
Say what you need to explain yourself.
If you are not racist it will shine through.
Mockingbird
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Oh, beast..you are cool....and honest....
No words are racist. Actions are racist.
Say what you need to explain yourself.
If you are not racist it will shine through.
Mockingbird
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God, KC, you sure have some experience to tell...
No words are racist. Actions are racist.
Say what you need to explain yourself.
If you are not racist it will shine through.