how do u find the job that is perfect for u in the city?
- Joined: Feb 14th, 2009
- Posts: 24
graduated from school last year, majored in turfgrass mgt, worked in a real estate brokerage company as a sales which i am not really good at.quit 6 months later. maybe it is because my family's been doing business since i was born, i always wanted to do business myself. problem is everyone keeps telling me i am not a business type of girl. i guess my last job proved it. i really shoule not be doing business or sales job. i guess i am not extroverted enough. i hate it. but it is really hard to change who you are. now i am looking for a new job. feel lost and losing hope and confidence. my shool was not bad even got a dual degree from a overseas school.since i dont want to do a job related to my major, it is even harder. they say i am not a city girl i should go back home with my parents then life will be easier. i am not ambitious maybe too kind, does that really mean i am not good for the city? sometimes i just want to get married and be a housewife, that is nice as long as my husband loves me. just broke up with my bf.it was hard. thought he was special but he is too far away. hard to see the future of us. but, still thinking about going back to him, i miss him, but not sure if it is a good idea. seems he is fine either way. said he didnt want me to wait, not fair or something. i dont know what to do.i am really not good at making decisions, it is too hard.
YunRui
Re: how do u find the job that is perfect for u in the city?
If you brought yourself here to China, then you couldn't be that shy and retiring. And, clearly you were able to make a big decision to move to China (assuming you are in China - don't know which city though). So, I think your low self-confidence doesn't reflect your reality.
Being unambitious and too kind are not requirements to live happily in the big city. When you find what you're really good at, are happy when you do it, then start doing your research and start looking for job postings that fit. I know it sounds easier than it is, but you have to start some where. Maybe, the city is the best place to find that job.
Stay Hungry!
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Pain is a requirement, not a curse
lilinyan
Re: how do u find the job that is perfect for u in the city?
thank u. yea it does sound easier than it is. but i will try find it.
i didnt bring myself here. i was born here. i am chinese...dont know why u think i am a foreigner here...
YunRui
Re: how do u find the job that is perfect for u in the city?
My apology...maybe because your written English is quite good and you express yourself well in English (a bit lazy though, starting sentences with small case letters
). Good luck to you. For most of us, hard times come before the easier times.
Stay Hungry!
De Oppresso Liber
Pain is a requirement, not a curse
elisol
Re: how do u find the job that is perfect for u in the city?
The truth is, NO job is perfect! You can only ask yourself what things make you happy and then try to build your life (realistically) around them. Per example, if you feel happy with books then work at a library or someplace related (is an example). The point is always being realistic, just because you fancy yourself going to the moon doesn't mean that you will manage to be an astronaut...
Things get harder if you have never found something you liked in the first place. There is no right or wrong way in life really, so don't judge yourself too harshly no matter what happens...
About your love life, I understand you, I am a woman too! And I even though I am not chinese, I know how it is for you having your family just wanting you to marry and not encouraging you to do something else with your life. Sometimes, women we feel tired of fighting and just want to "give up" and simply marry and have someone else to pay for the bills, then have kids and have a normal life... I am not against having a family, I love the idea and I simply can't wait to be a mother, but marrying just to escape from responsabilities doesn't normally bring happiness to you.
It is very normal that you feel lonely after breaking up with someone, that's why many people jump to new relationships very fast, to fill that emptiness. My advice though is to never run behind a man, you deserve to be treated well and if he is not begging you to come back don't even think about him.
People who tell you to go back to your parent's home are just being evil, I think. If you left it means that you wanted something else, so don't go back to find out that you just want to escape asap! It will limit your possibilities too much to go back, but this is my guessing.
Life is complicated... I guess we just need to write rules for ourselves and stick to them, find goals and aim at them. I can't help you much as I find myself many times as desperate as you do! But well, I just hope that you are already feeling better and that you can look at things from an objective perspective and not allow others put you down or talk you into doing anything... we only live once, so make sure to do everything you want to before you run out of time!
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Triple Three
Re: how do u find the job that is perfect for u in the city?
Don't take this the wrong way; You should probably work on your punctuation and paragraph structure.
If I were a recruiter, I'd be a little concerned about a candidate who doesn't capitalize or arrange sentences in a traditional format. This is critical in business, in my opinion, if you want to be taken seriously.
I understand this can be difficult for a non-native English speaker.
Again- not criticizing you, just offering some input.
As far as finding the right 'job' is concerned, follow the age-old advice: "do what you love and the money will follow." Take some time to really think about what you enjoy doing, then conduct some research to find a paid gig which allows you to do it.
niro
Re: how do u find the job that is perfect for u in the city?
dude this is a forum, not business letter school...lol
let the girl be.
back to the subject elisol is correct....there is no perfect job or such a thing as dream job. even if you found it, it don't last.
just be true to urself, do what u like, try things out. u do not want to regret something you were too scare to try looking back 20 years from now. u may just surprise urself by doing something u never thought u would have liked in the first place.
"graduated school last year..." your real life have just begun...school is easy time, now ur just started getting ur feet wet. in any socialty, u will be considered an infant. u have plenty of time to figure out what u want to do and eventually get serious in 5-10 years.
this is just a phase in adulthood, it will pass.
you are young, and the whole world of exploration is in your hand!