How do you think?
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Get hold of a man's finance and his cock, you are the same with a wife. Do you think it is right?
To come here, I realise that I am not as twisted as I imagine
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sereneselchie
Re: How do you think?
woooa,
Seen from my point of view, it is more like a pathetic self-defense of an abandoned middle-aged unhappy wife.
It is a kind of wife, still.
At the end of your life, you regret the stuff you didn't do more than the stuff that you did.
sexy beast
Re: How do you think?
dont want to be a middle-aged wife
To come here, I realise that I am not as twisted as I imagine
sereneselchie
Re: How do you think?
Sorry sexy,
Maybe I was a bit insensitive back there, but I read your other posts, and have got an adequate knowledge of your situation, You derserve more than that.
The right guy will come around.
At the end of your life, you regret the stuff you didn't do more than the stuff that you did.
YYZ
Re: How do you think?
If he's making you feel so insecure with this relationship, probably he's not the right guy for you - then let him go....
Dear god, make me a bird, so I can fly far, far far away from here.
wefrucar
Re: How do you think?
Personally I tend to think that having a man's heart, devotion and respect are better qualifiers for marriage, but then I am a romantic.
What you seem to be describing is a mistress.
Sometimes I feel it is maybe unbearable always be traditional Chinese girl.
Aier2
Re: How do you think?
Wrong.
Very wrong.
A wife is more than just someone to f***.
It's just that it can seem like that living in a place like this.
The finances are just something you need to take care off, like cleaning the apartment or brushing your teeth.
A means to an end, nothing more.
It's important of course, but if it's a defining aspect in your relationship then you're in for disappointment eventually.
Your Pal.
Jesus.
sexy beast
Re: How do you think?
My boyfriend has admitted he has this problem and he is changing it. People have told me that he is not gonna change but I would stay with him to help him if he reli wants to get rid of this habbit. For the society's standard, it might just be another tragedy, but I just want to try to follow my heart since it is my own happiness.
To come here, I realise that I am not as twisted as I imagine
otto
Re: How do you think?
and seriously..you're supposed to be with your wife until you die.
you think when a guy is in his 40's and 50's isn't kind of sick of f-ing the same woman for the last 20 some years if he doesn;t ruv her? If he doesn;t actually respect and ruv her...that hold on his cock isn't going to last too long, about 3-5 years max, thrust me
"Every normal man must be tempted, at times, to spit on his hands, hoist the black flag, and begin slitting throats."
sexy beast
Re: How do you think?
Yes, I agree with you, a man who let you hold his cock and finance, I believe that coz he wants you trust him and feel safe, there is always one way if somebody reli wants to betray.
To come here, I realise that I am not as twisted as I imagine
otto
Re: How do you think?
no, if you got a guy buy the cock AND his money, he's either very stupid or he really loves you
but if a guy really loves you doesn;t necessarily mean you have him by the cock and his money
it's actually a mathematical formula
C+M=l
or,
C+M=S
S doesn;t always equal L and vice versa
on the other hand
sometimes, L=C+M
or L can = LOOS-C
L=LOOS -M
or
L=LOOS -(CM)
* LOOS ="Lots Of Other sh*t"
glad that's all cleared up.
"Every normal man must be tempted, at times, to spit on his hands, hoist the black flag, and begin slitting throats."
Aier2
Re: How do you think?
hmmm....well.
It's a long road out of hell, beast.
One step at a time.
wefrucar
Re: How do you think?
Ah, poor guy. His story is a tragic one.
No matter how hard he tries, he just can't seem to stop his penis from slipping and falling into other girls' vaginas.
If you think about it, he's the real victim.
No, but seriously. He's not going to change, but maybe you're okay with that. As long as you're both totally honest with each other about what you want and expect from the other person, who's to say that an open-on-one-side relationship can't work aside from countless precedents that never pan out well?
But especially when the emotional stakes are so high, it really does hinge on honesty and communication.
Sometimes I feel it is maybe unbearable always be traditional Chinese girl.
wefrucar
Re: How do you think?
otto I find your mathematics questionable and upsetting
Sometimes I feel it is maybe unbearable always be traditional Chinese girl.
Aier2
Re: How do you think?
Yeah a guy giving you his cock and his finances doesn't mean anything.
You could be a whore.
Guys can be stupid and give control of their money to the first bird that strolls by. It doesn't mean anything.
The cock is a good place to start of course, so you have that.
Your pal,
Jesus
otto
Re: How do you think?
O+M=QU
"Every normal man must be tempted, at times, to spit on his hands, hoist the black flag, and begin slitting throats."
vividFish
Re: How do you think?
Follow your heart if you feel happy and you believe that he can change for you.
And you know, people will always persuade you to leave him, but nobody can replace you to burden the hurt if leave him.
That is your private life. Nobody should intervene with.
But maybe one day you will regret that you didn't leave him earlier by yourself.
That is a process.
There is no perfect love.
Enjoy the process.
nanananayeah
Re: How do you think?
silky, i really believe that's terrible advice to give this girl. you have about as much EQ as a slug. she, in this post, and in previous posts, has revealed that she basically gets treated like sh*t by her boyfriends and needs to resort to scheming tactics to keep them. the best advice you could give her would be to get some self-respect and that no matter how much you love a guy, he'll never be worth months/years/a lifetime of unhappiness. that's no life at all.
Trust me, it's so danger.
wave
Re: How do you think?
We need another advice thread set up. 'Dear Slicky'.
Sometimes the same is different, but mostly, it's the same.
vividFish
Re: How do you think?
I've said it is a process.
Obviously the OP feels hard to leave him for the time being.
Read carefully.
I am not a slug, you are. hehe
vividFish
Re: How do you think?
oh waverer
YYZ
Re: How do you think?
Girls are usually more emotional, less rational than guys in a relationship. I used to follow my heart and believe my ex would change for me as he promised, but it finally led me to nowhere. Think about it, if you can afford anything you're going to take, just go for it, heart-breaking is part of our life, haha, just don't regret.
Good luck sexy beast!
Dear god, make me a bird, so I can fly far, far far away from here.
YYZ
Re: How do you think?
..edit..
Dear god, make me a bird, so I can fly far, far far away from here.
sexy beast
Re: How do you think?
There was onething I have heard and taken as virtual, the first 30 years of your life, try everything you want to try, the second 30 years of your life, no regrets. Thanks a lot, YYZ and Silky. Who says pain isn't a part of life even we all started for happiness.
To come here, I realise that I am not as twisted as I imagine
sereneselchie
Re: How do you think?
LOL,either Otto is bluffing around or I am a retard.
What kind of formula is that?
Did you sometimes use capital letters and other time didn't?
Could be the part that confused me.
At the end of your life, you regret the stuff you didn't do more than the stuff that you did.
vividFish
Re: How do you think?
There must be a reason why a girl attachs to a man.
Sexy beast didn't mention the reason doesn't mean there is no the reason.
As an outlooker, I don't think to make others make absolute decision is wise.
Because you are not the fish, how could you know that fish is not happy?
Aier2
Re: How do you think?
Spoken like a true virgin.
No offense Silky but I'm guessing you're single and have been since like...birth?
Avoid Silky's advice at all costs OP.
nanananayeah
Re: How do you think?
what is the matter with you two?
i realise that maybe you need to go through some heartbreak before you learn the best ways to do things, but you guys are like actively encouraging her to do that, even when she's posted before about shitty relationships and bad experiences and presumably been through that process already. when you give advice, your advice shouldn't be "oh sure, just do whatever you want, enjoy the journey"
that's what you say AFTER the sh*t relationship has come to an end and you need to comfort them. for now sexy, you should dump the chump! and don't stick around and "enjoy the process", geez.
Trust me, it's so danger.
vividFish
Re: How do you think?
Don't relate everything to virgin.
I know you are not a virgin.
Obviously you are not a woman, how can you understand a woman's feeling?
vividFish
Re: How do you think?
Maybe there are some women are not cruel bitches.
That is why they need a process.
It is not an encouragement, it is a suggestion to make things happen naturally.
Aier2
Re: How do you think?
I'm sorry silky but you don't have the experience to give advice on this.
The criteria is having ever kissed anyone conscious.
You didn't make the grade.
Try again next year.
As for understanding a "womans feeling".
Who cares?
She's asking for advice to help her with a man.