It's xenophobic when the overseas born Chinese I know go around shitting on "mainlanders" and making sure everyone knows that they are NOT one of them.
It makes me sad ... when my ABC/CBC friends talk shit about China and Chinese people. That is xenophobic.
Why is it different when non-ABC Americans do it? Why is it okay then?
Identity doesn't come from your skin color or your birthplace (tons of white/black/brown people are born within Chinese borders - do they make you sad too when they shit on China?). Identity comes from your beliefs, which then dictates your lifestyle and actions. Once you strip an ABC of their skin and hair color down to their beliefs, are they more alike their fellow Americans or the average Chinese person? Because if it is the former, why should skin color and birthplace divide ABCs and other Americans into two groups?
But few understands this - certainly not the locals and apparently not the foreigners either. I think that's why ABCs make a more distinct effort "to make sure everyone knows they are not locals".