Countdown! Our Biggest Blogs – #10
To celebrate the upcoming anniversary of the Beijinger magazine, we're taking a look back at the 11 most-read posts in the history of TheBeijinger.com. We're going to countdown from 11 to one, with a blog every day until the big event on October 18. Without further ado ... let's step back in time to June 10, 2010.
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Note: The information contained below was accurate at the time that it was originally published.
"Laowai: He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not" by Morgan Welch
It’s a perennial subject in China’s online world, and once again a local female blogger has raised a divisive question – to date foreigners or not? ChinaSMACK has translated a call-to-arms against falling for Westerners; more specifically telling Chinese women not to sleep with Western men.
The author of the translated ChinaSMACK post concludes, through the highly scientific process of asking around, that every Western man in China is here for two reasons: because he can’t get a job in the Western world, and because he knows he will attract local women like moths to a flame. She cites some examples of less-than-chivalrous Americans dating pretty Chinese girls to illustrate the “fact” that Western men cheat, deceive, and undervalue their innocent Eastern girlfriends.
Ignoring for now the blanket generalization here, what’s more concerning is the lack of credit the author gives to Chinese girls. She seems to think they can’t help themselves, and are uncontrollably drawn to horrible laowai faster than you can say “Mei yuan.”
The blogger says that Chinese girls can’t find true love in an East-meets-West relationship – here’s why:
“… before you can have true love, you must have respect, and in the eyes of foreign men, the image of Chinese women have already begun to be ruined by the minority, having become: The world’s most promiscuous, most brazen, most devious, simple-minded, intellectually slow, stupid, ‘easy’ girl. It’s hard to imagine a man giving true love to a woman like that. There’s one exception, which an American told me about, which is those foreigners who want their wives to be a three-in-one combination of maid, cook, and sex worker.”
“Which an American told me about”? Clearly this girl’s research is highly scientific.
Maybe, just maybe, the issue here is lumping huge numbers of people under stupid labels like “Chinese girls” and “foreign men”? The real question is – why does anyone care what other people are doing in their bedrooms?
