Divorce in Cross-National Marriages: Who’s Deceiving Whom?

Andrew Killeen | Sep 14, 2016 8:30 am | 2 comments | 3105 reads

An article in Sunday’s Global Times suggested that divorce rates were increasing in cross-national marriages in China due to “cultural differences, conflicts on how to raise their children, extramarital affairs and long-term separation caused by work or visa problems.” The article has prompted debate within Beijing’s international community, but do the facts support the headline?

The article quotes (but does not link to) a piece on cankaoxiaoxi.com which states that cross-national marriages are increasing by 1,000 a year in Beijing; but neither article gives an absolute figure, so we’re not told how many actual marriages this represents. We are told, though, how many divorces take place in these marriages: “173 cases in 2013, 203 cases in 2014 and 254 cases in 2015.”

If we assume that there were 1,000 cross-national marriages in 2013, 2,000 in 2014, and 3,000 in 2015, then the divorce rate has actually more than halved, from 17.3 percent to 8.5 percent. Since it’s certain we didn’t start from zero cross-national marriages in 2012, then the decline is less dramatic, but the actual rate is even lower.

Compare this to the general divorce rate in Beijing – a staggering 39 percent – and you may start to wonder what’s going on. Global Times comes up with a 20 percent figure for cross-national divorces in Ningbo, Zhejiang Province, in the first half of 2013, but the oddly specific nature of the statistic leads inevitably to the suspicion that it’s something of an outlier. And it’s still lower than the overall US divorce rate of around 25 percent.

Bereft of convincing statistical evidence, the article leans heavily on anecdotes. “When 33-year-old Ellen Chen decided to marry a Chilean man one month after meeting him, she had no idea that they would divorce four months later,” is a paraphrase of one such story. Well, perhaps she didn’t, but other people might have seen it coming, particularly when they discover that he had lied to her about his previous marriages and children. I would suggest to Ms Chen, and to the writer of the article, that cultural differences may not have been the main problem there.

The other story, describing the break-up of a 30-year marriage between an American man and a Korean woman, is sad, but it seems odd that they managed to overcome their cultural differences for so long before the marriage eventually failed. A cynic, on reading that the American concerned “is now dating a Chinese woman," might question whether we’re being told the whole story.

In short, there is no real evidence that cross-national marriages are more likely to fail, or that the divorce rate is increasing. What is certain, though, is that divorce rates in China are increasing, and that the marriage rate is falling, due to gender imbalance and the increasing independence of Chinese women. Might it be these anxieties which really lie behind Global Times’ eyecatching headline?

This article originally appeared on our sister site beijingkids.

Photo: Jesslee Cuizon via Wikimedia Commons

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Re: Divorce in Cross-National Marriages: Who’s Deceiving Whom?
Posted Sep 16, 2016 2:17pm by AndrewKilleen
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I did some research for this article - I know, amazing, isn't it? *smile* - and the US divorce rate is much lower than is often suggested, particularly the much quoted but mythical 50 percent figure.

It's hard to pin down an actual "divorce rate" as such, because there's no official definition and you're often not comparing like with like. But the best evidence I could find suggested that 75 percent of American marriages last "till death do them part."

I suspect that when people make this commitment despite all the barriers of language, culture and law, that their commitment is all the stronger, and all the more likely to stand the test of time. And the statistics tend to support this idea.

Re: Divorce in Cross-National Marriages: Who’s Deceiving Whom?
Posted Sep 14, 2016 11:13am by Candy1988

It is not the problem that these are cross-national marriages.

Because as I learnt, the divorce rate in many Western countries are much higher already. The number of the US should be above 35%, right?

What's more important, the marriage rate is actually very low in other countries than in China. In other words, they don't treat marriage as a big deal and less and less people choose to keep a serious relationship at all. This is the key point of the cultural difference. And this is the reason I have put up the "stop dreaming" post for Chinese girls to get rid of such dramas...